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Looking After Yourself and Looking Good : Part 1

Spoiling yourself may seem like something selfish but at times it can be your best retreat from the stresses in your life. 

Some of the things that I have done for myself to deal with stress have included taking aromatherapy baths and showers, meditating, yoga, making my own face scrubs and trying out new nail polish designs. I will admit that sometimes doing things like my nails has not worked out (adjusting someone in bed with slightly wet nails sucks) but sometimes these little things have made me feel better.

There is a saying "dress for the job you want, not the job you have" and I feel this phrase works well for caregivers. The reason for this is that although you may be overwhelmed with the changes in your life, how you look can change your opinion of yourself. You can be stressed out but, if you look half decent, I have found that you look at life from a brighter side and can do a better job no matter what you do.

When I'm stressed out I have found that my face breaks out with zits way more. I have tried prescription  Retinol creams, things like Clearasil and pine tar soaps. Of course the zits affect the way I feel about myself - the more zits the worse I feel. One thing I have found to work for me is called oil cleansing. What you do is moisten your face with warm water, apply a little coconut oil and wipe off with a damp washcloth - it's kinda like using Pond's Cold Cream. I also make  a face scrub using coconut oil and baking soda with some essential oils to help my skin. Since I have been doing this, my breakouts are smaller and easier to hide with a tiny bit of makeup. ( I believe I have seborrhetic dermatitis although this has not been proven )  I will admit that this has worked for me and even other people have noticed how much my face has improved.

In doing my nails, I found that taking a couple of days to do them can help with the problem of a botched manicure. Personally, I'd rather wait and get my nail design right rather than do it all at once. I'd rather take a day or so to do a couple of layers of polish rather than have my Mani ruined. Doing a layer at at a time can be a problem ( I hate it when nail polish chips) but you're less likely to have a problem in the long run especially if you have to adjust your care partner.

Makeup may seem like something to be avoided but, I have found that if you at least do your eye make up, you feel better about yourself and don't feel so tired. That and a bit of lip-gloss and you're ready to go.

Dressing "up" may seem silly, but I've found that if you dress in your grungy clothes, you feel grungy. Now if this is a look that you're going for, by all means have at it. Dressing nice means that you feel nice. This is not to say that you can't wear sweats, just make them look amazing (think Lulu Lemon or Nike ads).


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Saying "No"

As caregivers, we have great caring hearts and, at least for me, difficulty saying no to people who ask us for something. This can be from our family, friends or at work. Saying "no" is sometimes the best thing that you can do for yourself and for the other person. 

When I was caring for Mom, I got a phone call from my disabled friend for whom I have Power of Attorney and he wanted me to help save him from eviction. I was also having to care for my husband who was at our home. There was just no way that I could help him and although it broke my heart I had to say No. He ended up going into a shelter and from there into long term care which turned out to be the best for him. So never feel guilty for saying no - it can be good for you by lessening your stress and for the other person by having them solve the problem themselves or ending up in a better situation. 

Here are some helpful phrases for saying "No" that can help you feel less guilty and not leave the other person feeling disrespected.

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Staying Inspired

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How I Used Pinterest as a Caregiver

Pinterest is one of those sites that I find to be addictive to me. I can spend hours and hours looking at the site and pinning and repinning stuff.  Pinterest is a free site to join and it is basically a place where you can put links to stuff that you're interested in instead of creating tonnes of bookmarks, printing out stuff or clipping out magazine articles. It's kind of like a electronic corkboard for your ideas. 

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There are pages/categories (boards) there for caregiving (for caregiving and other specific things you have to enter it into the search bar) women's fashion, food and drink, fitness, home decor, quotes and much much more. I've been keeping all of my pins on one board but you can set up different categories for whatever interests you  for example, "my style" or "dinner ideas" or however you want to title your boards. 

As a caregiver I was using (and still use) Pinterest to find slow cooker, snack and freezer recipes, fangirl stuff (I love Doctor Who!), inspirational quotes, organizational tips, homemade cleaning and beauty products and ideas on fashion as I couldn't get out to buy new clothes. I was doing this because I was running out of ideas on what to cook for my husband and I and I was also beginning to suffer from caregiver burnout (although I didn't know it).

I was getting so fatigued that I started on Pinterest by looking to make mealtimes easier for me. I liked the fact that in the food and drink category you can find foods that are vegetarian, gluten free, paleo diet, "skinny" foods, slow cooker recipes, snack ideas, freezer meals and more. I'm all for making my life easier, especially when I'm tired and don't want to think about cooking, which is why I like all the slow cooker recipes and  freezer meal ideas such as the recipe I tweaked for slow cooker "roast" chicken. In fact, I still look in this category for meal ideas when I have no idea what to eat.

I continued to browse and found ideas on how to organize the fridge so that my husband could easily find something to eat when I wasn't there or I was asleep. I also found ideas that helped me tidy and decorate so that the husband was comfortable and our home looked nice (well, most of the time). The Women's fashion category helped me figure out what I had in my closet and how to organize it so I could find nice outfits to wear. Looking at the quotes kept me inspired so I could keep on going.

All in all I've found Pinterest to be a great inspirational site and very useful but I must say very addictive to me.

How do you use Pinterest as a caregiver?

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Quick Tip - Lamp Timers

If you or your loved one likes to read in bed before sleeping, get yourself a timer for the lamp nearest to them (or you) and set it to go off one hour after you want the sleep time to be. Also, have the timer be a minimum of 6 hours before you have to wake (more is way better). 

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The advantage I've found with this is that, if you fall asleep before your light goes off, you are still getting the benefits of a darkened room (proven to improve mood, stress levels and fairly recently to help prevent Alzheimer's and behavioural problems in children) because your light isn't on all night and as an added benefit you also you don't waste electricity. 

Other advantages are that these timers usually have a "turn on" time and when they do you can also set it for the time you want to get up. I found that if I set mine for about one a.m. and 7 a.m. I could still do my studying, watch TV, have a bit of down time and generally read a bit in bed before I had to start again (I try to get to bed between 11 p.m. and midnight). 

One strange thing I found is that now that I personally use a lamp timer, I sleep better and I also have such a regular sleep pattern that I usually wake before my alarm clock, which can sometimes suck especially on weekends.

By the way these timers are sometimes sold on sale during holiday time for things like Christmas/Hanukkah lights and also plant lights for things like African violets. They are usually available in your local hardware store year round.

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Proportions on My Plate

I just watched the documentary  "Fat, Sick and Nearly Dead" about this Australian gentleman named Joe Cross who decided to go on a 2 month juice fast. His goal was to get himself off his medications, particularly prednisone for chronic urticaria, and get himself healthier. 

What he was saying about his lifestyle choices kinda struck a note with me. Even though I'm an holistic practitioner, there are times when my diet is just awful - too many refined foods, meats and just plain junk (I do like my pizzas and take-out chinese food) . Even I tend to lean towards the typical western diet with its emphasis on meat and potatoes over veggies.

So today I've decided that the husband and I are going to be eating more of a Mediterranean/Vegetarian diet (even though he doesn't know it yet) with it's emphasis on fruits, veggies, legumes, lean proteins such as fish and nuts.(I can just hear the husband going "ugg, rabbit food").  Now I'm not going to be doing a juice fast (mostly because I don't have a juicer) but what the movie was saying about the proportions that the Western diet has in regards to a typical plate being 1/2 protein, 1/4 refined carbohydrate and 1/4 of over cooked vegetable just reminded me that this is what I've been doing for the last couple of months. 

One of the first steps I'm going to be doing is changing the proportions on my plate with 1/2 being raw or lightly cooked vegetables/fruit, 1/4 complex carbohydrate and 1/4 protein. This is going to be a fairly simple change and I'm hoping that it's going to help with my energy and skin problems. I also know that this is going to take longer than doing a juice fast but every little bit helps. Now I'm off to look through my cookbooks and get my shopping list together.

Finding My Happiness in the Little Things

Well, I've been having a crazy week (and not just from caregiving) which is why I've not posted in awhile. So far I've cleaned the bathroom literally from top to bottom (and discovered that I may have to gut it to fix some problems I thought were minor), flipped my mattress (no more back ache for now), talked to the husband's specialist and adjusted his meds (actually a two week process), and have been helping a friend who is a hoarder clear out a storage space on a deadline.

Some of the highlights of this crazy week that have made me happy have been discovering a recipe for slow cooker roast chicken that's just amazing (I'll be doing it again with a few more tweaks), finding out that the reason the hubby was feeling so crappy was because he was dehydrated (thus the adjustment in his meds) and him getting his appetite back,  finding low sodium tortillas, and watching my and my husband's favorite movie (The Princess Bride). 

I'd guess you could say that although it's been crazy around here (and will be for the next week or so), it's been the little things that have been helping me keep from feeling overwhelmed all the time and that in keeping them in mind I see that what I'm doing is worthwhile. I realize that my little things are not for everyone (who'd have thought that finding low sodium tortillas would make me happy?) but it's in finally fully realizing that they exist in my day-to-day life that's been the eye opener. I've heard all the cliches before about "looking on the bright side", "it's the small things that matter" and "every cloud has a silver lining" but it was in finding them that had always been the problem for me. Now that I've figured out what some of my small things are I'm going to keep looking for them in my life and try to keep my perspective that my small things matter. 


As one of my small things was the recipe for slow cooker roast chicken that I served with a salad, I figured that I'd share it and perhaps it will become one of yours. 

My Recipe for Slow Cooker "Roast" Chicken

1 Tbsp Club House NSA Steak Spice

1 Tbsp Mrs Dash Garlic and Herb blend

1/8 tsp S&B Nanami Togarashi (assorted chili pepper) {optional}

1 Medium Onion 

1 Small Whole Chicken (about 2-3 lb.)

Take the first three ingredients and mix in a small bowl. Set aside.

Slice the onion into half moon shapes and place into the bottom of the slow cooker.

Rinse the chicken inside and out and pat dry. Rub the spice mix inside and out of the chicken and place in the slow cooker on top of the onions. Cover and cook on Low for about 7 hours.

Makes about 4 servings.

Notes: Be careful in taking the chicken out of the slow cooker as it will be falling off the bones.  

Don't worry about not adding any liquid as this will make it's own juices.

I have a four quart slow cooker and my chicken fit the slow cooker perfectly so I'm not sure how this will work with the same size chicken in a larger cooker.

I found that the skin didn't get that crisp but it wasn't bad (ie. soggy) and also that there was a fair bit of juice in the bottom of the cooker after the chicken was done. I didn't use the juice that night but I'd bet that it would make a great gravy. 

With the leftovers I've made quesadillas (with the low sodium tortillas) and chicken salad sandwiches. Today I'll be making chicken soup with what's left and the juices.  

Quick Tip

Use a muffin tin or mini muffin tin to make meatloaf, quickbreads or even breakfast egg dishes. This makes them easy to transport for lunches or snacks and the smaller size makes it more likely that the person will eat everything. I did this for my mom while she was undergoing chemo with banana bread and she'd eat 3 mini muffins while she was there. My husband is more likely to eat 2 meatloaf muffins than to eat a slice and I like the fact I can dump them into a container and take them for lunch.

Quick Tip

If it difficult for you and your loved one to get out to the doctor's to get blood work done, ask the medical technician if their lab has someone who can come and do it at your home. There may be a fee (we paid $25) but it is more convenient, more comfortable for your loved one and (at least for us) costs about the same as a taxi ride to the lab.